All we ever did was fight about money! He was so controlling! She would always hide money! He would spend all the money on himself! It was never enough! How many pairs of shoes does a woman need anyways? She would max out the credit cards and then look to me to save her _________. Money. Money doesn’t cause divorce. WE are the leading cause of divorce. Jan Anderson associate professor at CSU Sacramento wrote his doctoral dissertation on the subject of money causing divorce and you know when he came up with? Zipo! Zero! Nothing. Money is very simple. Either you will control it, or it will control you. If you every say, “I don’t know where all my [...]
“Can I talk to you for a minute?” “Sure what’s up?” “Well, I have kind of wanted to talk to you about this for a while…” “I think I have fallen out of love with you?” “Wait? What? I don’t understand, was it something I’ve done?” “No it’s not you, I just don’t have those feelings I use to have, I’m sorry.” ____________________________________________________ Sounds familiar? Maybe your husband, wife, or boyfriend just dropped the “fall out of love” bomb on you and you are trying to figure this all out. First I would like to say, I am truly sorry, it must be extremely painful to have to listen to that. Second, it will get better. I promise. Pinky promise. [...]
Acne, anger, anxiety, bloating, breast pain, cramps, depression, dizziness, fatigue, headaches, heavy menstrual flow, hostility, insomnia, irritability, joint pain, mood swings, nausea, nervousness, night sweats, and tension. Yep it’s all make believe! Okay, so for starters, I should clear the air before talking about this topic. I do not have a vagina. Some of my buddies would disagree with this statement. Girls, you do not have to read any further, this is for my homies in the house. Okay dudes, listen up. I don’t care if PMS does not exist medically, I might not be able to see the wind, but it’s there! All women are different. You might be safe if your wife’s voice is deeper than yours, but [...]
If you’re just tuning in, this is part two of of our two day series on “Why Do We Keep Fighting!” So how did the team finally get out of the forest? It will be the same answer as to “How can we stop fighting?” The team fixed their eyes on something. They fixed their eyes on a goal, an object, something of value, something real. The Sun. The team finally got out of the forest after they set a goal, got focused and didn’t take their eyes off the Sun. How does this relate to your relationships and fights? What are you fixing your eyes on? Winning? Well if that’s the case, you have already lost. If you win [...]
A German team of scientists dropped a group of people in an unfamiliar forest and tracked them via GPS. Their goal was to leave. Get out of the forest. What ended up happening might surprise you. How many times do you end up having the same exact arguments, over and over and over again. You think to yourself ”oh no, here’s comes the same fight again.” And no matter how hard you try to avoid it – wham – back into the old familiar forest. The results of dropping the team of people into a forest… they wandered…and wandered… actually to be precise, they wandered in the same circle. No matter how hard they tried to get out, they ended [...]
What is marriage? What a loaded question. How does someone answer that question? How do YOU answer that question? What is marriage? Did you come from a broken home? What home isn’t broken? People look at marriage with their own experiences, hurts and joys. You could answer the question, “what is marriage” couldn’t you? Does it stir up joy? Anger? Love? Confusion? Is the first thing you think about is the political/religious spin? Marriage is between a man and a woman! Isn’t that the big argument if you want to run for office. But this is not about politics. This is about me answering the question from my heart, but in doing so I’ll have to take you on a ride. I rarely [...]
Okay class, we’re going to learn a new word today. The word is (pause for dramatic effect) NO. Say it with me, NO. If I could summarize the word boundaries in one word, that word would have to be “NO.” Boundaries are not easy. They are difficult to establish and many times, relationships get torn when boundaries are put into practice. I am a people person. I love to please. I find it much easier to just say yes. I must have read a half a dozen books on the subject of boundaries, but even in that, I find it hard to say no. Boundaries = Respect. People without boundaries are people without respect. Boundaries are found all over. [...]
So you and your wife are getting off the plane from your long deserved vacation. She looks at you and says, “I love you, you’re an amazing man, I don’t know how I could live without you?” With beach sand still between your toes, you get the door for her, “thank you” she says. The two of you are more in love then ever before as you head down the highway towards your home. As you pull up to the driveway your wife rolls down the window and says, “Why is all of our grass dead! It looks like World War III happened on our front lawn, or what’s left of it!” “I think I forgot to turn the system [...]
Why in the world would I create a website called sleep on the couch? I have 4 main reasons: 1. I want to make you smile. 1 1/2. I cannot scrapbook. 2. I thought relationships were easy. THEY ARE NOT – Getting a masters degree is a heck of a lot easier then successfully completing a relationship. 3. My parents gave me really bad advice on relationships. I would ask my step-dad, “Tell me about girls.” He would say, “Never marry them. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” “Get as much as you can while the going is good.” “But dad, I don’t like cows, why would I marry a cow?” “Boy you’re stupid” [...]
“DID YOU REALLY THINK I WASN’T GOING TO FIND OUT!” “Find out what?” “GET OUT! JUST GET OUT, AND DON’T COME BACK!” “WHAT DID I DO!” ~ w h i z s m a s h ~ “HEY THAT WAS THE IRON!!!” “LEAVE, OR YOU’RE GETTING THE IRONING BOARD!” “MEGAN SAW YOU!!! HOW WAS LUNCH?!!! AND YOU KISSED HER!” “I told you last week I was meeting my sister for lunch! Call her! I cannot believe you.” “oh” This might be a difficult one to swallow: But anger is a choice. You can actually choose anger. The subway doors open, you squeeze through with everyone else. The New York city streets are bustling with people. You are bumped and pushed [...]
